Dr. Mardee Alff Psy.D

Christians Experiencing Narcissism

Recognizing narcissism in definition and experience.
Positioning yourself as a Christian in a narcissistic relationship.
Healing the wounds of narcissism through a deepening love relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ.

Utilizing "Nourishing Traditions" Cookbook for peaceful behavior change in relationships.

The information on this site has been prepared with one goal in mind: to provide tools for you to enhance your relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ. It is this relationship that enables you to be able to work through the effects of narcissistic abuse and persecution. This six part educational lecture series is sequential, and each builds upon the previous lecture. The following is a summary of the lectures.

6-Part NPD Educational Sequential Series:

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)

What Are The Symptoms

And How Can I Deal With The Pain / Persecution

From A Christian Perspective

Copyright © 2003 by Dr. Mardee Alff, Psy.D.

NPD. 1 "Experiencing Encouragement In The Dark Times Of Life: Five Common Human Problems and Four Crucial Christian Truths That Guard Our Hearts In The Problems." emphasized how a person's anger, anxiety, negative self-talk, pessimistic attitudes, and depression {or striking back} were all connected. These five problems begin with lies believed, and took the person into the dark times of life. Four crucial Christian truths were offered to counteract the lies and to provide ways to work to receive healing through the dark times. These truths are the following:

  1. Knowing God's love
  2. Recognizing we are only human. We have a spirit that lives in a body and has a soul, and all are affected by being human.
  3. Agreeing with God's plan for us as men and women here on earth. Women need to learn to grow into being His Cha-yil woman of power and authority [Proverbs 31:10], and the despot [the one who keeps and guides the house] of I Tim. 5:14. Men need to grow into loving [John 15:7-17] and especially their wives as Christ loves the Church [Eph.5:25]. To love requires equality [James 2:1-10] and mutual submission [Eph. 5:21], or it isn't love.
  4. Fulfilling our job to remove the blocks that prevent our receiving the miracles God has already prepared for us. The dark times of life are not God's fault. He is not punishing us. By standing on these Truths, we work with the Lord to uncover several of the real reasons we are preventing Him from blessing us as He promised in His Word. It is the Truth that heals. Knowing that we can participate with God in the dark times of life by believing His Truth is encouragement. The Lord's Way is not passive, but mighty to pulling down strongholds. That is the heritage of the Christian.
  5. For more information on Biblical Equality, visit www.cbeinternational.org.

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NaPD. 2 "Diagnosis of Narcissism; Experiencing the Symptoms of NPD",stressed how the NPD abuser's negative cloud of shame, rage, inadequacy, jealousy, and guilt, --dumped on their prey-- made this victim feel like these were their own emotions. The lecture emphasized that a person must recognize their own negative attitudes, and the simultaneous negative cloud of the NPD, and deal separately with both. The diagnosis of narcissism was presented, and the way it was experienced in relationships.

NPD. 3 "Peace Within; Limiting the Experience of abuse; Parenting exercise", highlighted how to work with the effects of the negative NPD abuser's cloud to bring peace within the abused person. It demonstrated a self-parenting model to transform anger, guilt, and shame, into healing strength. This model may also be used to parent a child.

NPD. 4 "The Requirement To Work With The Soul Hurts You Have Received From The NPD; Strategies For NPD Experience." will provide basic information from the 2010 revision about the soul, what goes around comes around, how to deal with self hate, parenting exercises, the connection of the soul in personality disorders, an experiential comparison between NPD and Borderline Personality Disorder, and the remarkable nutrition program [Nourishing Traditions Cookbook] that helps Narcissists and Borderlines use their "kind public-outside-the-house-face with family relationships inside the house.  Then we will continue the discussion from 2006 on interactional strategies for the NPD experiences of jealousy, Cycle of Violence, possible physical abuse, intimacy, put-downs, protecting your joy and sorrow, and countering arrogance.

For more information on Nourishing Traditions, visit www.westonaprice.org. In Nourishing Traditions, especially note pps. 338-339 sidebars, and the stock chapter,for a starting plan of action.

NPD. 5 "More Strategies For NPD Experience Across The Life Span", furnished recognising and replacing false hope with True Hope, understanding the NPD manipulation of children to break the spouse's bond with the children, learning new ways to answer the narcissist, connecting misogyny and the NPD in the home and Church, and being prepared for health problems within the narcissist when they cannotcontrol you.

NPD. 6 "3 -Prayers", consolidated the three experiential prayers and explanatory notes that were generated from the lecture series. They are the following: The Quick Prayer to give back the abuser's destructive cloud; The Parenting Prayer to use in caring for your own negative attitudes,emotions, and behaviors; The Personal Prayer that addressed the negative attitudes, emotions, and behaviors, as well as the demonic curses that accompanied them,in the persecuted person, the abuser, and in both of their family lines.

A special link for those who are in an abused relationship: For information concerning Peace and Safety in the Christian Home, visit www.peaceandsafety.com.

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Addtional Media Services:

***We are now able to make available the Original 3-hour Workshop of 2003, the predecessor of the NPD 1-6 Series. It contains the Three Prayers. It is typewritten on 8 1/2 x 11 paper, 31 pages.

***As a separate item, we are now offering the current NPD.6, The Three Prayers, in written form.

NPD Educational Lectures, Support Groups, and Consulations:

After completing the NPD series and filing your evaluations with the office, NPD consulations are available, and support groups when there are enough for a group.

It is important to understand the difference between psychotherapy and educational programs [Lectures, Support Groups, and Consultations]. . Psychotherapy is a contract for a set number of sessions using specific psychotherapy techniques to resolve a symptom / problem, that is within a client, by working many times with very personal client information. The diagnosis of the symptom / problem will determine the best psychotherapy techniques to use in psychotherapy, and is therefore essential in doing psychotherapy. Insurances require a diagnosis before they will pay for any services that are allowed within a client's policy.

In contrast, educational programs [Lectures, Support Groups, and Consultations] do not have a contracted set number of sessions, or use specific psychotherapy techniques; or resolve a symptom / problem within a participant, or include very personal participant information. Ther is no diagnosis; therefore, there is no insurance coverage. Education programs do provide the opportunity to learn a new skill, whether landscaping, decorating, balancing a checkbook, or in dealing with NPD. The focus of the learning is outside of the participant.

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Testimonials:

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"Dr Alff's CD collection has taught me techniques to cope with people, guard my attitude and reactions, limit the effects of abuse and protect my joy. As I listen I learn strategies to grow stronger and heal a little more. I've grown closer to God, and pray more effectively by listening to them before I go to sleep at night. "

"For the first time in my life, I have the Fruits of the Spirit, especially patience, gentleness, kindness and self-control. I always strived to have those fruits, trying for years and now I have them--miraculously! Having the recordings at my fingertips and replaying them was like reaching into a treasure chest and pulling out handfuls of precious gems whenever I wanted. I need to hear things several times to learn. Dr. Alff teaches in a simple step-by-step, matter-of-fact manner how to remove a negative personality cloud, heal the childlike parts of yourself and pray in a productive way for healing."

"Dr. Alff has made it so simple: I do all of this while performing daily activities. I listen and practice while driving, cooking, cleaning... I even practice giving back negative personality clouds during potentially volatile conversations, allowing me to remain calm and to express my emotions and ideas.

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Connecting the soul (the intellect, will & emotions) with Biblical Truth and psychological knowledge.  Integrating the soul with body and spirit for peace in all areas of life -- business, personal, marriage, family, and relationships

Copyright©2008 by Dr. Mardee Alff, Psy.D.